Why the same arguments keep happening

Most relationship conflict isn’t about communication.
It’s about two people systematically misreading each other.

If this feels familiar, you’re in the right place

You talk. You explain. You try to be reasonable.
And yet the same arguments resurface, often around the same themes.
That isn’t because either of you is broken.
It’s because the way you interpret situations is fundamentally different.

Why common advice doesn’t work

Most relationship advice focuses on better communication.
That only helps when two people are already seeing the same thing.
When they’re not, communication becomes repetition.
The same intentions. The same misunderstandings. The same conflict.

See the pattern instead of replaying it

The Slide System™ focuses on interaction patterns rather than labels.Instead of asking who you are, it highlights why friction keeps emerging between two people and what assumptions are being missed.Understanding the pattern changes how you respond.

Conflict Insight Tool

A simple interactive tool that highlights why misunderstandings keep repeating between two people.It shows:
- where expectations clash
- why frustration escalates
- what usually makes things worse
This isn’t about blame. It’s about clarity.

Reveal your conflict pattern.

Insight changes behaviour

People don’t repeat arguments because they want to.
They repeat them because they don’t see the pattern they’re inside.
Once the pattern is visible, different responses become possible.

Want deeper context?

If you want to explore these patterns further, this book provides additional background and perspective.

Your Social World Explained
Now in its second edition, this book explores why people repeatedly misunderstand each other and how hidden social patterns shape everyday interactions.

Need more than a tool?

If you want personalised insight or have questions about your situation, you can get in touch here.

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